East Texas Men’s Rehab, an Adult and Teen Challenge treatment center near Paris, TX understands that you need to find help for your loved one who is caught up in substance abuse, and we want to help! We are a low cost drug and alcohol addiction treatment center with a residential home for adult men in Deport, TX.
We know facing life-controlling problems such as drug and alcohol abuse are incredibly difficult. That’s why our proven residential rehabilitation program helps struggling men (18+ yrs. old) become established in society through holistic recovery, mentoring, education, and job training. Most of the staff leadership are themselves graduates of the program.
Give us a call to learn more about how East Texas Men’s Rehab ATC helps adult men caught up in substance abuse find hope, and a new life!
Let’s Talk…Tips on How to Begin
1) Keep your best motives in mind. When we feel upset, we become angry or fearful, and as a result our motives change. Without realizing it, we begin to focus on punishing, being right, or keeping the peace rather than healthy problem solving. Before talking to your loved one about drugs, pause for a moment and ask the focusing question: What do I really want? This pause can help you get your motives in check and move from simply “keeping the peace” through silence to being a powerful influence on the person you’re trying to reach.
2) Confront with facts, not judgements. When you present the facts, you obligate the person to respond to the information. When you use judgments or accusatory language, it appears you intend simply to humiliate or punish, and they feel no obligation to engage in the conversation. For instance, if you’re talking to a teenager, replace, “You’re a liar, and I won’t stand for this,” with “I’ve noticed the spray cans of air freshener I bought for the bathrooms are already empty. I only bought them a week ago, and your dad and I haven’t used much of it ourselves. As far as I know you are the only other person who has been at home.”
3) Make it safe. Your loved one may become defensive during your crucial conversations less because of what you’re saying than because of why they think you’re saying it. Here are three steps to help them feel safe in the conversation:
- a) State what you don’t intend and what you do intend: “I want to reassure you that I have no desire to make your decisions for you, or to cut you off from having a happy life. I want to be supportive of you, and I want to influence choices you might make that I believe will hurt you.”
- b) Be flexible about when you talk, but not about whether you talk. Control is a huge issue. Sometimes you can provoke an unnecessary confrontation by demanding that conversations be on your terms and your timeframe. It’s best to try to engage in dialogue by respecting the other person’s preferences about when to talk. “I’d like to talk openly with you about your concerns and mine. I’m interested in hearing your views even if we disagree. Is now a good time to do that or would it be better later? And if later, when would be good for you?” If they don’t want to talk now, show respect by being flexible—within reason. If your loved one doesn’t want to talk at all, help him or her understand why talking is required. “I understand that you don’t want to talk right now. I also know that you intend to go to a party tonight where I have reason to believe there might be bad influences. If we can’t talk before then, I’ll need to decide how to deal with the party tonight on my own. If we can talk before then, it will give me a chance to hear your point of view. What would you prefer we do?”
- c) Create a “safety reserve” by creating safety even when there are no problems. Communicating respect, praising small positive signs, “catching” them when they’re being good, and showing an interest in the person’s life will help him or her feel much safer talking to you when problems emerge.
4) Discuss, agree on, and stick with boundaries. If you talk about rules and expectations before he or she is tempted to make bad choices, it is much easier to enforce them later. Then, when boundaries are violated, hold your loved one accountable consistently. If it’s a boundary, it should always be a boundary.
5) Evaluate the dialogue. You’re aiming for a two-way, face-to-face conversation that gives your loved one room to disagree with you and communicate a different point-of-view. After the conversation, ask yourself who did most of the talking. If your loved one didn’t do at least 25% of it, you didn’t ask enough questions—or didn’t create enough safety to allow them to participate fully.
American Rehab Centers Recommends Adult & Teen Challenge
American Rehab Centers recommends Adult & Teen Challenge rehabs for recovery from substance abuse due to the length of time these programs give to users to allow them to get past their addiction. It takes a good year of abstinence in a controlled environment for a man to stop for good. Most other rehab programs are not able to give that much time and attention to him, or are too costly for most people to afford over an extended period of time.
East Texas Men’s Rehab TX Adult & Teen Challenge is a nonprofit, affordable and effective residential program for adult men who are struggling with addictions. We provide holistic addiction and alcoholism treatment through a long-term residential experience with daily education, counseling, mentoring, and vocational training. Most of the staff leadership are themselves graduates of the program.
In a safe, single-gender, and encouraging environment at our men’s home in Deport, TX our team works with each individual, showing him the way toward a more fulfilling life based on God’s forgiveness, love and purpose. Men receive room and board, group and individual biblical counseling, parenting classes, spiritual support, relapse prevention, anger management, drug and alcohol education, and social/recreational activities as well as vocational rehabilitation and a sober living for program graduates.
For 60 years, the Adult & Teen Challenge treatment and recovery model has proven to be highly effective for all addictions, bringing about maturity, honesty, humility, care, and total life change in a man that lasts.
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Joseph Grenny, author of the New York Times bestseller, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High